Confession | I'm Addicted to My Phone



Okay, it's fantastic that my blog is doing well and that I've found a new love for writing however, It's somewhat come at a price...

I think I'm addicted to my phone now and I've accumulated some unhealthy habits.

I probably sound ridiculous and I don't mean to complain because I absolutely love my blog at the moment, but I guess I'm just worried for my own sanity? 

My partner of almost four years is screaming out for me to put the damn phone down. I can literally feel him side eyeing me as I pick up my Iphone for the millionth time to scroll through Instagram. During ad breaks we've agreed that it's fine to have a quick look, but seriously when did I actually last fully pay attention to whatever we're watching? When did I last show my partner proper affection for longer than just a glance over to say "I love you" before continuing to bend my neck awkwardly to peer at my phone once more.

I'm the worst at the moment because I'm feeling incredibly excited and motivated to create content, but there's absolutely no balance. My right hand feels lost and my eyes become dizzy if I'm not pointlessly trawling through Twitter or Instagram. 

Writing this now I'm fully aware that I've been on and off my phone all day whilst creating content on my laptop, and I feel dreary as a result. 

For the most part, I feel shameful admitting that I've been prioritizing social media too often over real life relationships and using every moment as an opportunity to grab my camera. Although I'm also super proud of the brand I'm beginning to curate, the writer I'm becoming and the photography skills I've been able to establish so far. I don't want to ignore or undermine those achievements. 


What's my plan of action then? I mean, I don't know if I really have a strict one?

In terms of my routine I mostly have that figured out. However, it just seems that as the day goes on and I've completed whatever chores need doing etc I return to my phone and probably don't look back up until bedtime. Is this why my posture is so terrible?...probably.

I'd love someone to recommend me some real sound advice on how to wind down of an evening and become social media free that doesn't start with "read a book before bed" though.

My only saving grace is that I can definitely say for at least two or three days per week I'll hardly be looking at my phone at all, and my brain is definitely not in a blog / social media obsessed funk. Working twelve hour shifts where access to your mobile is prohibited is quite useful in that respect. In addition, I'm also happy to report that spending hours on end looking at my screen doesn't appear to have impacted my sleeping pattern thankfully.

The lesson I've learnt from putting these thoughts into writing is that I think I need to make another NY resolution - It's not too late is it? I need to find a more balanced lifestyle moving forward. I must remember that my relationship is top priority however. I hate feeling disconnected because I'm trying to up my following on Instagram or promote a blog post on Twitter. In reality I have plenty of hours in the day before he's home to accommodate this blog of mine, and through better planning I should be able to achieve everything I still hope to moving forward. Time is not the issue here, it's my time management that needs some tweaking.


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  1. Every week I do offline 48 (check them on instagram) and delete IG, twitter and some other apps off my phone and I feel so much more refreshed and my mental wellbeing is way better. It can be tough, especially when you're so motivated but you don't want it to lead to burn out, so in moderation is best xx

    Jess | https://jessrigg.com

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    1. That's my fear. I know at some point my motivation will dip and I won't be able to keep up with this creative streak. Thanks for sharing your advice though! I think deleting social media for a little bit might be really useful moving forward x

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  2. I'm the same!!! I've been trying to reduce my screen time by being more *purposeful* when watching TV or reading a book or playing a game - It helps me focus only on that activity and putting my phone across the room also helps!

    Uptown Oracle

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    1. I'm so glad you can relate. I was writing this and feeling kind of silly because on some level we're all addicted to social media these days but, I'm so glad I've addressed my own issues. I'm hoping to find a better evening routine somehow but, I'm not sure what that might include yet. I like the idea of distracting myself with an activity or game though x

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  3. It's definitely not too late to make another goal or resolution. I urge you to because this is something I've definitely struggled with. Do you have the option to set screen time limits on your phone? I've done that and it's helpful. But I think mostly it's about getting out of that FOMO mindset. It's so hard!

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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    1. Thank you Jenny!

      I don't think I have that option on my phone, but I'm looking to upgrade in the near future so that's something I definitely should consider with my next device.

      You're definitely right though, it's FOMO. I want to keep up to date with my fellow bloggers just as much as I want to stay relevant. On days where I haven't posted something new on my blog or on Instagram I especially feel this stress. I'm quite an anxious person too which I'm sure doesn't help the situation.

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  4. I feel your pain Kate.

    It's very difficult to manage especially when you're highly motivated because it's all consuming. To a certain extent you have to always be "on" since it's "business".

    I don't have a solution for this I'm afraid since I'm almost frightened to lose this motivation. It is definitely destructive, but it is helpful too sadly!

    I guess the best thing we can try to do is to build a schedule for checking in as you suggest, rather than checking things every other minute. At least this might help to give a sense we are in control rather than acting out of a feeling of compulsion.

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    1. So pleased you can relate. I love writing and I can't help when a creative wave kicks in but, I also find myself spiraling on social media sometimes. I don't feel an urge to post content everyday but, I feel I need to keep engaging constantly in order to feel relevant I suppose or at least, not to be forgotten.

      I worry that at some point I'm going to burn out though. Currently I have blog content coming out of my ears, but surely at some point that might end. And yes, it's completely destructive isn't it?!

      I think more planning and scheduling is definitely the way forward for us both. Becoming more mindful of time and utilising productive hours wisely will surely mean we won't have to feel a constant urge to keep checking in.

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  5. I used to be so addictive to my phone too! Two years ago my phone broke and I couldn't afford to get a new one so for three months I was living without a phone. It was actually so relieving and sometimes I miss it, even though sometimes it gets hard to get in touch with people. Now I try to turn off my phone when I go to work and not even use it during my breaks, instead I'll read a book or write. Social media can be so addictive indeed! Great post and good luck! x

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  6. Whew, same. It can be tough when you are creating content on an online space and then further promoting it online. I'm right there with you, and feel guilty about it often. However, I truly do thing that awareness and making small steps in the right direction are the first steps to striking a healthier balance. Best of luck to you!

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    1. Thank you. It's reassuring to know that I'm not the only one.

      I love promoting my blog and am so proud of my hard work, but I need to prioritize my time better and as you say, awareness is the first step!

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  7. I can definitely relate! When I find myself getting too obsessed with social media, I make a point of doing something outdoors, leaving my phone at home. I try to really focus on the details of the outdoors, the sky, the plants and trees - somehow just being out in the sunshine and fresh air helps me regain some perspective. I do try to "detox" one day every few weeks - no phone at all - but that is unrealistic when you have a family used to you responding immediately to their emphatic texts!!
    Joan
    https://kindness-compassion-and-coaching.com

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  8. This is a great blog post and I agree with some of the things you’ve mentioned! I always find that Journalling or doing some of my bullet journal before bed helps to keep my phone away from me!

    Ayse x

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  9. Guilty. I've been here, especially in the earlier days of my blog I felt like I had to be on my phone 24/7. I'm still guilty of too much scrolling but now I try to do no social media after a certain time at night to limit my screen time and spend more time in the real world x

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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    1. Thank you for reading. I think I'm just overly excited as my new blog has grown so much more than anticipated. I'm feeling so highly motivated to write and that's great but I need to separate my time more, instead of isolating myself.

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  10. It helps me to not have any notifications on my phone other than texts and phone calls. I do not need to know every time someone likes or retweets something the second that it happens. I try to stay in the moment as much as possible, so if my family is asking for my attention, it's time to put the phone or computer down. Good luck! It happens to all of us.

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    1. Thanks for the advice! Moving forward turning off the notifications might be a great idea - I think it would really help me wind down in the evenings and enjoy quality time with my partner.

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  11. I feel the same way! One of my goals for the new year was to grow my blog and become more successful at it. But now I feel like I am constantly on my phone checking it. My husband doesn't like it either. I need to designate some time away from it for sure!
    -Charity www.morningsonmacedonia.com

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    1. I'm so glad you can relate but sorry to hear about your similar experience too. I hope your husband appreciates your hard work despite the annoyance it might cause sometimes. Thankfully my partner has his own projects going on so he's relatively understanding, he just wishes I was able to make the most of our time together and hide my phone away sometimes x

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