3 Ways to Find Peace at Mind
So, let's get started!
Here's my top three pieces of advice to help you...
1. Define what's important to you
No judgment here. Identify what's important to your lifestyle with no shame, just honesty.
Create a list. Do what makes you happy and stick to your guns.
If seeing your friends frequently and drinking fancy wine is your thing that's cool. If staying in alone and drinking copious amounts of tea is more you than that's okay as well. If you'd rather spend your weekends blogging and growing your brand than attending another family dinner, I don't blame you for that either and, if your social life has been lacking because you're trying to save that's fine too.
What's important to me? Spending quality time with my partner, cooking delicious meals often, attempting to see all of my friends at least once a month and going on solo brunch dates. Through vast amounts of planning and organisation of my calendar I'm usually able to achieve all of these things. It's not always easy and things don't always go as planned but that's o k a y.
2. Surround yourself with people who make you feel empowered, informed and inspired
If you're scrolling through your Instagram and someone's content honestly makes you feel nothing but shitty about your life, I swear you need to unfollow them instantly. I could leave it there but I'll continue...
I learnt last year that social media is what you make of it. I can literally curate my own feed and choose the content I want to see. As a result you'll mostly find me following accounts that post delicious food, instead of ones telling me my body is abnormal and that I need to diet. I follow other mid-sized girls like myself and other bloggers I aspire to be more like. You won't find me following any skinny tall girl flaunting her wealth, hot body and latest vacation snapshots. I want honest captions, everyday relatable moments and beautiful aesthetics.
In this bullet point I'm not just talking about social media however ~ I also feel the same towards friends and loved ones. It might sound somewhat cut throat, but if anyone in your life leaves you feeling all kinds of sorry for yourself it's time to say goodbye. Easier said than done I know fully well, but for your own sanity and peace at mind cutting out negativity in your life is a must.
3. Make self-care days a priority
Neglecting ourselves comes easy at times, especially when our social calendars accidentally become somewhat hectic. I can't shout it enough though, putting yourself first sometimes isn't an option - it's a necessity! The longer you put off your own self care needs the more your body is going to fight against you. So you may as well get in that bloody bath, chuck in your favourite bath bomb and CHILL.
Personally, I try to take a self care day at least once per week. I need time to unscramble my thoughts, to rest and organise my life. Sometimes self care for me means staying in bed all day and watching my favourite show, sometimes it means tidying my home and creating a plan for the rest of my week, and sometimes it means taking myself out for brunch.
Some weeks I manage to fit in more days to myself and others I don't feel like I've had even a minute. For the most part I can trust my body to tell me when to take a step back and recharge though. It's easy for me to notice the signs e.g. becoming highly strung and stressed because I've been too busy socialising or feel I've been stuck in work. Therefore, it's vital for me to address my feelings and cling onto that next day off tightly to recuperate.