27 February 2020

3 Ways to Find Peace at Mind


Trying to prioritise ourselves and recognize how to find peace in our own lives can seem an unthinkable task, but through reflecting on my own dark moments and establishing what I need to maintain a level of tranquility and privacy in my own life, I've been able to establish a calmer lifestyle in every single way.

So, let's get started!

1. Define what's important to you

No judgment here. Identify what's important to your lifestyle with no shame, just honesty. 

Create a list. Do what makes you happy and stick to your guns. 

If seeing your friends frequently and drinking fancy wine is your thing that's cool. If staying in alone and drinking copious amounts of tea is more you than that's okay as well. If you'd rather spend your weekends blogging and growing your brand than attending another family dinner, I don't blame you for that either and, if your social life has been lacking because you're trying to save that's fine too. 

What's important to me? Spending quality time with my partner, cooking delicious meals often, attempting to see all of my friends at least once a month and going on solo brunch dates. Through vast amounts of planning and organisation of my calendar I'm usually able to achieve all of these things. It's not always easy and things don't always go as planned but that's o k a y.

2. Surround yourself with people who make you feel empowered, informed and inspired

If you're scrolling through your Instagram and someone's content honestly makes you feel nothing but shitty about your life, I swear you need to unfollow them instantly. I could leave it there but I'll continue...

I learnt last year that social media is what you make of it. I can literally curate my own feed and choose the content I want to see. As a result you'll mostly find me following accounts that post delicious food, instead of ones telling me my body is abnormal and that I need to diet. I follow other mid-sized girls like myself and other bloggers I aspire to be more like. You won't find me following any skinny tall girl flaunting her wealth, hot body and latest holiday snapshots. I want honest captions, everyday relatable moments and beautiful aesthetics. 

In this bullet point I'm not just talking about social media however ~ I also feel the same towards friends and loved ones. It might sound somewhat cut-throat, but if anyone in your life leaves you feeling all kinds of sorry for yourself it's time to say goodbye. Easier said than done I know fully well, but for your own sanity and peace at mind cutting out negativity in your life is a must. 

3. Make self-care days a priority 

Neglecting ourselves comes easy at times, especially when our social calendars accidentally become somewhat hectic. I can't shout it enough though, putting yourself first sometimes isn't an option - it's a necessity! The longer you put off your own self care needs the more your body is going to fight against you. So you may as well get in that bloody bath, chuck in your favourite bath bomb and CHILL.

Personally, I try to take a self care day at least once per week. I need time to unscramble my thoughts, to rest and organise my life. 

Sometimes self care for me means staying in bed all day and watching my favourite show, sometimes it means tidying my home and creating a plan for the rest of my week, and sometimes it means taking myself out for brunch. 

Some weeks I manage to fit in more days to myself and others I don't feel like I've had even a minute. For the most part I can trust my body to tell me when to take a step back and recharge though.  It's easy for me to notice the signs e.g. becoming highly strung and stressed because I've been too busy socializing or feel I've been stuck in work. Therefore, it's vital for me to address my feelings and cling onto that next day off tightly to recuperate. 

...There you have it! 3 little pieces of advice to help you and a little reminder for myself.

16 comments

  1. Nothing ever happens unless we straighten out out priorities. I think, based off my experiences, that people are afraid putting themselves first is selfish, and view selfishness as a kind of demonic sin.
    But I would rather recognize that happiness is important for me to live at my best and be a little selfish. I cannot smile and be kind; I cannot be helpful and learn if I am miserable inside.
    So I love your tips for finding peace of mind!

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    1. Thank you for reading. I think sometimes it's okay to be a little selfish. It's important recognise whats important for us to sustain the lifestyle we wish we lead, but it's also important to not always to act selfishly. Sometimes we need to think about other people a little more and sometimes we have to put ourselves first. It's all about being the best version of ourselves - being a responsible, kind and supportive person in every way.

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  2. Great tips. Self care days are sooo important! That's something I'm really working on at the moment.

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    1. Thank you Jenny. I hope you're able to fit in lots of self care in the coming weeks x

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  3. These are definitely three important ways to find peace. Self care days are a must and it is so important to surround yourself with positive people too!
    -Charity www.morningsonmacedonia.com

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    1. Thank you. I'm so pleased you agree and enjoyed reading. I think it's all about becoming the best versions of ourselves, understanding what's important to us and what's not. We have to be kind to ourselves and create the life we deserve x

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  4. Brilliant tips, lovely! I'm really starting to understand the importance of self-care especially on days when I'm struggling. I've surrounded myself with people who I know care and won't mind my quirkiness!

    Daisy xoxo | TheDeeWhoLived

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    1. Thank you so much. I'm sorry to hear that you've been struggling recently but I hope you're able to find a self care routine that works for you and some healthy habits to practice moving forward. I'm always here to offer support if you need me x

      Kate | thelittlecrunch.co.uk

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  5. Surrounding yourself with positive people who understand and support you is so important! It's really overlooked but I think it's the best thing to do for yourself x

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    1. Agreed. Admitting that some people in your life don't have your best interests and are toxic is a huge step. We need to surround ourselves with friends / loved ones who uplift our spirits, are kind and decent x

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  6. Very good advice, I definitely need to do some self care days.

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    1. It's just so important to take time to ourselves and recharge. Self care doesn't always mean just relaxing at home with a bath. It can mean, cooking your favourite dinner, going out to dinner to your favourite location, and just doing whatever is important for you to feel good.

      Thanks for reading x

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  7. I'm trying hard to get at least one self care activity into my week and preferably more. Even if it's just a facemask while drinking a cup of tea it makes such a huge diffference.

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    1. Definitely a face mask is a lovely idea and one I need to do more often. I work quite flexibly which means that self care / days at home happen more often for me, but I understand the challenges involved when peoples schedules are much more hectic. Hope you're able to find a routine that works for you.

      Thanks for reading x

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  8. Great tips!

    Thanks for sharing Kate!

    Sophie // SophieMLoves

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