10 Things I've Learnt in 10 Years



How 10 years can shape you!

Aged 17 I knew nothing about the world and felt confused about everything. I had no idea what future I wanted for myself in any shape or form, and I never envisioned myself where I am today.

I've learnt a huge amount I can't even begin to comprehend but here's at least 10 life lessons...

1. I'm not academic and that's okay

I'm a much more practical person. Don't determine my worth through a high pressure exam or make me perform a presentation in front of an audience. Observe me work, hear me speak through conversation and allow me to write with no time constraint.

2. Don't bleach your hair alone at home without doing your research

Arguably my most valuable lesson. 

I admit I had no idea what I was doing but, most experiments on my hair had worked through the years. Sadly despite many attempts, I can confirm that powder bleach is not your friend! These days I stay clear of any brand that promises the whitest hair imaginable and stick to high lift tint instead.

3. Planning every inch of my life is important to me

As the highly strung individual that I am, planning is key to a calm life. I admit when things go south I get a little stressed, but I try my best not to have a full blown meltdown and creating a joint Google Docs spreadsheet shared with my partner has helped. Here we plan our food shopping, weekly meals, household finances and to-do lists. I find the entire process oddly enjoyable and I can't imagine a world without this level of organisation now.

4. Sometimes you've got to kiss a lot of frogs

Thank you Tinder for your assistance during 2013 - 2015. Some guys truly broke me, some made me more confident and some were damn right insane. I absolutely have no regrets through, just lots of memorable moments.

5. You can hate your weight and still find happiness

I've been both skinny and miserable and chubby and happy. Right now I feel somewhere inbetween and so much more content with my life than ever before. I'd love to lose a little, but I understand that happiness comes from within. My weight is not up for discussion. I love food and if that means being a little heavier I'm cool with that.

6. Creative doesn't have to mean being an artist

It took me a long time to feel okay about not being a creative person in the artistic sense. I've realised however that creative can mean being a great cook, a good planner and a fun host. Creative can also mean how you choose to decorate your home, show off your personal style and create your brand.

7. It's fine not to go travelling in your 20s

I've watched so many friends and influencers my age or younger travelling the globe and whilst that looks amazing, it's just not me. I want to explore different cultures but money worries hold me back and, to be honest It's more important to me to have a home I can call my own right now. Somewhere I can return to and feel permanently safe. A space all my own to enjoy.

Spontaneity scares me. 

8. I'm not a Sagittarius after all

Guys, I'm a Scorpio! I don't care if my date of birth stipulates otherwise because I just don't feel it. I'm a water sign through and through.

9. Not going to that party is okay

If like me you've been to A LOT of parties / nights out that made you feel more alone that actually being in your own company, I think it's safe to say that it's okay to stay home. Ultimately your friends will still have a good time regardless and you can continue doing whatever else actually makes you happy. It took me a lot of hangovers and sad moments to realise this bombshell.

10. Buying a house isn't the most important thing

It's fucking hard to save and I refuse to live with my parents / my partners parents (lol that's not even an option) until we're in our mid 30s in order to do so. 

I never thought we'd find an affordable house to rent as an alternative but we did and I'm still pinching myself about it. Our humble sized home is perfect for the next few years and we're very settled after only moving in September. Now buying isn't really on our immediate agenda and that's fine. If anything a weight has been lifted. 






















































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  1. Love that your lessons are so positive and accepting of who you are and what you can do. I felt so much positivity reading your post. Lots of them made me think 'me too' and that I had really progressed this year!

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    1. Thank you for reading. I'm so pleased you can relate x

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  2. 1,2 and 5 are spot on!

    Sophie
    www.thecoffeelawdiary.blogspot.com

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  3. I love this so so much. Thank you for sharing your reflections with your readers. I relate so much: I am also an incredibly organized person (thank God for google docs), am feeling "in between," about my weight, and recognize the importance of waiting to buy a house for financial purposes (I'm about a decade older than you and we're only starting to talk about house buying now). Best of luck in the next year! I know it'll be great (and be careful with that hair bleach!).

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    1. Thank you so much for reading. Google Docs is a real life saver isn't it! I never knew I could become this organised but I really feel on top of things for the most part. The aim is to of course one day own our own home but if that doesn't happen it's okay. I do still mess around with my hair at home quite a bit but I'm hoping not to make any mistakes that can't easily be rectified again anytime soon (fingers crossed) x

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  4. This was a lovely read and I can relate to a lot of these! I love that a lot of these are to do with realising to trust your own opinions over what everyone else and society thinks - it can take a while to realise this but it's great when you start to trust and love yourself :)

    Sarah x

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    1. Thank you. I've let go of a lot of hang up about what society expects of me. I tend to overthink a lot but I've reached a level of happiness in my life where I feel comfortable with who I am and where my life is going. Wishing you a fantastic 2020 x

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  5. I really loved reading your post and I can relate to quite a few of your points. I think you analysed each of them perfectly and I agree, and I sure hope you have a wonderful year!

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    1. Thank you so much. I wondered how much context I needed to give each statement and wanted to write much more for a few. I thought for this post simplicity was best though. I'm hoping I might be able to delve into some of these subjects more in future. Hope you have a fantastic 2020 x

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  6. I love this style of post, and I can definitely agree with the kissing a lot of frogs I did an awful lot of that in the last decade! Thanks for sharing x

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  7. Wonderful post, and great life lessons! I agree, ten years make all the difference, and it's such a big span of time that it's inevitable to learn a few things along the way. Happy 2020, and may this be a year full of great things for all of us!

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  8. Great lessons. I can't believe how quickly these 10 years have gone x

    Jenny
    http://www.jennyinneverland.com

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  9. Great life lessons! It sounds like you have really found who you are in the last decade and that's amazing! Happy 2020 xx

    Violethollow.com

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  10. This was such a great read. You're clearly very wise and I love how you worded each lesson, there's something really authentic about your writing, which I love. Ah man, number 10 is one I'm really torn with right now. It sometimes feels hard to know what the right thing to do is but the more I hear about people's experiences, the more I think I should just rent for a while lol. Thanks for sharing!xx

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    1. Thank you so much for reading. I'm so pleased you enjoy my writing style and can relate to some of my life lessons. Number 10 has had me feeling all kinds of things too. I really would love to buy a house but it just wasn't happening for us. By pure accident stumbled across a cute little home we could rent so we couldn't not go for it. Hope you find the perfect home for you whether that's through owning or renting. Happy 2020 x

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  11. Love your honesty Kate ♥️ And can totally relate to number 4 🐸🐸🐸

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    1. Thanks for reading! I'm so happy and sad at the same time that you relate to number 4 x

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  12. I love you confidence. My weight has been an issue for me, but I am learning to love myself as is. Though I do love a good meal, most of my weight came from bearing three lovely kiddos. If I do decide to lose the weight, that's a plus. Until then, I must accept and love who I am!

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    1. So pleased to hear about your body confidence. I have days where I feel low about my weight but they don't happen often. I'm happy in my skin overall and am learning to understand that my weight isn't important. I contribute so much to society and am a good, kind person - that's what really matters. Well done for bringing 3 beautiful babies into the world too, you should be immensely proud x

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