10 Things I've Learnt in 10 Years
How 10 years can shape you!
Aged 17 I knew nothing about the world and felt confused about everything. I had no idea what future I wanted for myself in any shape or form, and I never envisioned myself where I am today.
I've learnt a huge amount I can't even begin to comprehend but here's at least 10 life lessons...
1. I'm not academic and that's okay
I'm a much more practical person. Don't determine my worth through a high pressure exam or make me perform a presentation in front of an audience. Observe me work, hear me speak through conversation and allow me to write with no time constraint.
2. Don't bleach your hair alone at home without doing your research
Arguably my most valuable lesson.
I admit I had no idea what I was doing but, most experiments on my hair had worked through the years. Sadly despite many attempts, I can confirm that powder bleach is not your friend! These days I stay clear of any brand that promises the whitest hair imaginable and stick to high lift tint instead.
3. Planning every inch of my life is important to me
As the highly strung individual that I am, planning is key to a calm life. I admit when things go south I get a little stressed, but I try my best not to have a full blown meltdown and creating a joint Google Docs spreadsheet shared with my partner has helped. Here we plan our food shopping, weekly meals, household finances and to-do lists. I find the entire process oddly enjoyable and I can't imagine a world without this level of organisation now.
4. Sometimes you've got to kiss a lot of frogs
Thank you Tinder for your assistance during 2013 - 2015. Some guys truly broke me, some made me more confident and some were damn right insane. I absolutely have no regrets through, just lots of memorable moments.
5. You can hate your weight and still find happiness
I've been both skinny and miserable and chubby and happy. Right now I feel somewhere inbetween and so much more content with my life than ever before. I'd love to lose a little, but I understand that happiness comes from within. My weight is not up for discussion. I love food and if that means being a little heavier I'm cool with that.
6. Creative doesn't have to mean being an artist
It took me a long time to feel okay about not being a creative person in the artistic sense. I've realised however that creative can mean being a great cook, a good planner and a fun host. Creative can also mean how you choose to decorate your home, show off your personal style and create your brand.
7. It's fine not to go travelling in your 20s
I've watched so many friends and influencers my age or younger travelling the globe and whilst that looks amazing, it's just not me. I want to explore different cultures but money worries hold me back and, to be honest It's more important to me to have a home I can call my own right now. Somewhere I can return to and feel permanently safe. A space all my own to enjoy.
Spontaneity scares me.
Spontaneity scares me.
8. I'm not a Sagittarius after all
Guys, I'm a Scorpio! I don't care if my date of birth stipulates otherwise because I just don't feel it. I'm a water sign through and through.
9. Not going to that party is okay
If like me you've been to A LOT of parties / nights out that made you feel more alone that actually being in your own company, I think it's safe to say that it's okay to stay home. Ultimately your friends will still have a good time regardless and you can continue doing whatever else actually makes you happy. It took me a lot of hangovers and sad moments to realise this bombshell.
10. Buying a house isn't the most important thing
It's fucking hard to save and I refuse to live with my parents / my partners parents (lol that's not even an option) until we're in our mid 30s in order to do so.
I never thought we'd find an affordable house to rent as an alternative but we did and I'm still pinching myself about it. Our humble sized home is perfect for the next few years and we're very settled after only moving in September. Now buying isn't really on our immediate agenda and that's fine. If anything a weight has been lifted.